There's a reason that this is the name of my blog.
I'm a firm believer in living life to the fullest and having no regrets.
Everybody's opinion on what it means to live life to the fullest is too different to even begin to try to explain it. And, to be honest, my opinion on what it means changes day to day. So I'm not going to focus on that.
But what do I mean by regret nothing?
I mean it in every cliche way you could think of. I mean it like the quote "never regret anything because at one point it was exactly what you wanted." I mean it in the way that we shouldn't spend time dwelling on the past when we have a big bright future. I very literally mean REGRET NOTHING.
There are a lot of things that I could regret. A lot of decisions I've made that maybe didn't turn out the way I thought, or the way I wanted. But do I regret a single one? Absolutely not.
I could regret the 2 times in my entire high school career that I wore sweatpants to school. I thought it was a good idea but really I looked like I forgot to get dressed, because I'm not that girl on every sports team who can pull it off. But do I regret it? No. Because it was 20 degrees and I was too cold to put on real pants.
I could regret trying to make things work with a guy who lives 8 hours away. I thought maybe if I told him how much I liked him things would work out, but despite the fact that he liked me just as much he was really bad at keeping in touch and I got my hopes up too high. That relationship failed miserably. But do I regret it? No. Because if I hadn't told him exactly how I felt I would still be wondering if it could work.
I could regret all the nights I decide I'm too lazy to brush my hair before bed. I always think enough hairspray will fix it in the morning. It never does. But do I regret it? No. Because it always gives me an excuse to spend 20 minutes fishtail braiding my hair and then look like a mermaid.
It would be easy, entirely too easy, to regret every single one of those things. But if I did I would spend my life beating myself up about wearing sweatpants in public and thinking long distance relationships work and overestimating the power of my hairspray. Instead I decide to learn from it, and I move on. I regret nothing, because even though it might be easier to dwell on the past at first, in the long wrong it's best to learn from it and move on.
No, I'm not going to use this entire blog to talk about things I could, but don't regret. I'm going to use this blog to share things that I need to share. Like how I'm overly obsessed with TLC shows, my love/hate relationship with my curly(ish) hair, and probably a lot about how I wish my life was a Taylor Swift song. Honestly, I don't know what I'm going to write about or what this blog is going to turn into, but I think that's the beauty of it.
You don't have to agree with any of my opinions, but it would be awesome if you read them.
Welcome to my blog! My name is Melissa Tamar Oxenhandler and I have no regrets.
~Melissa Tamar
