Some People

We all have those people in our lives... the ones that feel like they have to insert their opinion into everything, even when no one asked. And no matter how utterly ridiculous it is, they are always right. And I mean ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS. Underlined, bolded, italicized, capitalized and repeated three times. That is how right they think they are.

But here's the thing....

No one can always be right. No matter how much you wish you were.


There are a couple of people like this in my life and I think my main problem with them is that we used to be really good friends.

I am a pretty darn opinionated person, and so are most of my friends. A lot of the time my friends and I have differing opinions. But the difference is knowing when to keep your opinion to yourself. And if I meet someone right off the bat wants to force feed me their opinion I will know right then and there that we are not going to get along.

So my problem with the current people in my life who are the underlined, bolded, every other emphasis on always right kind of people is that I could say I am almost 100% positive that that is the reason we are no longer friends. They got so opinionated that they couldn't take my thoughts in to consideration anymore. They put themselves on a pedestal and spend all their time looking down upon every body else because they disagree with you and they will never let you forget that they disagree.

Here's my main problem: how the hell do you deal with someone like that? You could...

A) Put up and shut up: Let them run their mouth about their opinions on everything (and quite literally everything, I bet they would debate whether Charmin or Cotonelle is softer even though no one really cares.) Just sit back and wait until they stop talking, which could take awhile. But this method takes so much self restraint.

B) Fight back: If you care enough to disagree, you probably have an opinion. And if you're like me you are just dying to let them hear it. So go for it. You get your opinion heard and they don't walk around thinking everyone agrees with them. Unfortunately with this method you have to be prepared with an arsenal of knowledge on the issue because one minor slip up and you will never ever ever hear the end.

or my personal favorite

C) Sassy girl (or boy) solutions: Now this method can be used alone, or in combination with A or B. Just make a sassy comeback to whatever they say. Let's say you chose option A and after what feels like (and quite possibly is) days of their opinion, just make a quick sassy remark and walk away. Or with option B, when you get tired of fighting and no matter how many great points you bring up they just won't stop. BAM. Hit 'em with a sassy comment and they will not know what happened. Of course, if you can't think of any good comebacks simply use a really sarcastic voice to tell them "Ya know what? You are absolutely right!" These opinionated people love a good fight, and as soon as you "agree" it takes all of the fun out of it for them.

So there you have it. Your guide to dealing with perhaps the most annoying specimen on the planet. I hope for your sake you are more patient than me, because usually I skip right to sassy solutions. Also, feel free to share your stories with me, because sometimes I find these people just as entertaining as they are annoying.

~Melissa Tamar

Live Life, Regret Nothing

There's a reason that this is the name of my blog.

I'm a firm believer in living life to the fullest and having no regrets.

Everybody's opinion on what it means to live life to the fullest is too different to even begin to try to explain it. And, to be honest, my opinion on what it means changes day to day. So I'm not going to focus on that.

But what do I mean by regret nothing?

I mean it in every cliche way you could think of. I mean it like the quote "never regret anything because at one point it was exactly what you wanted." I mean it in the way that we shouldn't spend time dwelling on the past when we have a big bright future. I very literally mean REGRET NOTHING.

There are a lot of things that I could regret. A lot of decisions I've made that maybe didn't turn out the way I thought, or the way I wanted. But do I regret a single one? Absolutely not.

I could regret the 2 times in my entire high school career that I wore sweatpants to school. I thought it was a good idea but really I looked like I forgot to get dressed, because I'm not that girl on every sports team who can pull it off. But do I regret it? No. Because it was 20 degrees and I was too cold to put on real pants.

I could regret trying to make things work with a guy who lives 8 hours away. I thought maybe if I told him how much I liked him things would work out, but despite the fact that he liked me just as much he was really bad at keeping in touch and I got my hopes up too high. That relationship failed miserably. But do I regret it? No. Because if I hadn't told him exactly how I felt I would still be wondering if it could work.

I could regret all the nights I decide I'm too lazy to brush my hair before bed. I always think enough hairspray will fix it in the morning. It never does.  But do I regret it? No. Because it always gives me an excuse to spend 20 minutes fishtail braiding my hair and then look like a mermaid.

It would be easy, entirely too easy, to regret every single one of those things. But if I did I would spend my life beating myself up about wearing sweatpants in public and thinking long distance relationships work and overestimating the power of my hairspray. Instead I decide to learn from it, and I move on. I regret nothing, because even though it might be easier to dwell on the past at first, in the long wrong it's best to learn from it and move on.

No, I'm not going to use this entire blog to talk about things I could, but don't regret. I'm going to use this blog to share things that I need to share. Like how I'm overly obsessed with TLC shows, my love/hate relationship with my curly(ish) hair, and probably a lot about how I wish my life was a Taylor Swift song. Honestly, I don't know what I'm going to write about or what this blog is going to turn into, but I think that's the beauty of it.

You don't have to agree with any of my opinions, but it would be awesome if you read them. 

Welcome to my blog! My name is Melissa Tamar Oxenhandler and I have no regrets. 

~Melissa Tamar